Dear Coleen

I HAVE been married for the past eight years to a wonderful woman and we have a child who is 18 months old.

About two years ago, I met another woman via Tinder and we instantly clicked. We are compatible with each other on so many levels that it makes me feel we were meant for each other.

My wife found out I was cheating but gave me a chance to work on the marriage. We’ve been to counselling to try to resolve our issues, however, I’ve continued to see this other woman.

Unlike with my wife, I can be freely open with this woman and the sex has been mindblowing from the start. Sex between my wife and me is practically non-existent and I feel she’s not a very sexual person. She behaves as if she wants it over and done with and she’ll find any excuse to not engage sexually.

My problem is that I want to stay in the marriage because I want my child to have a stable and steady family, as he deserves it. I want to work on things and be happy but my ideas on sex and enjoyment of life in general don’t match up with hers, which keeps taking me back to the other woman.

I haven’t mentioned my sexual desires to my wife as I feel she thinks it’s a taboo topic. I have mentioned in the past that I’d like to do it more often.

I’m also anxious every day that she will find out I’m still seeing this lady.