I FEAR SHE’LL GO BACK TO HER EX-LOVE

Dear Coleen

MY girlfriend, who I’ve been seeing for 10 months, has a daughter with her ex. While I realise she has to speak to him about arrangements for their child, I’m worried they might end up back together.

She’s told me lots of times that she doesn’t love him any more and things ended badly between them, although they’re back on friendly terms now.

The thing is, they still have mutual friends and I found out from one of them that she’d been out with them recently and her ex was there too.

She never mentioned this to me and I’m wondering why.

Do you think I should worry and should I bring it up with her?

Coleen says

I DON’T think you should jump to any conclusions, but I think you should bring it up with her. It doesn’t have to be in an angry or confrontational way, but just say you’d heard she’d seen him and wondered why she didn’t tell you.

Maybe it’s because she knew it would upset you and didn’t want to cause an argument, and she didn’t bank on you finding out.

She might not have even known he’d be there.

It’s not easy to take on someone with a child and an ex who’s still in the picture, so it’s only fair that she’s honest with you.

If she’s not and you hear from other people that she’s been out socially with her ex, then of course it’s going to tap into your insecurities over their relationship.

If it’s over between them, the only reason to be in touch is over arrangements for their daughter.