Dear Coleen

I’m very sad for my son, whose wife has just walked out on him after 10 years together and five years of marriage.

They were very happy – or so everyone thought – and seemed like the perfect couple, so this has come out of the blue. She walked out, she says, because she doesn’t think marriage is for her and wants to have more fun because she didn’t get to do this when she was younger.

I don’t get it because she had everything – a perfect house and a comfortable life. And although she claims she needs time and space to think things over, she’s moved in with a 20-year-old female friend.

I don’t think time and space to think will really be on the cards.

I’m so frustrated and just don’t understand her decision. She won’t talk to anyone about it – not to me or to her own family. No one understands where this has come from.

My son is very upset but he’s had very good support from his friends and me, and I’m doing my best to help him come to terms with what’s happened. He is keeping it all together but he doesn’t understand either.

I’m getting very down because I don’t get her reasons – she had everything and they were both very much in love.

She has lost a lot of respect from her family and friends. Do you think there is an answer to this?