PARENTS ARE CHEATING ON THEIR LOVERS

Dear Coleen

My bROTHER and I are both in our 20s and are having a problem with our parents. They separated two years ago, which was sad for us, but they actually managed things quite well and remained friends.

both of them found partners, who we’ve got to know and like very much. Here’s where things get tricky. Recently, our parents have been seeing each other again – and not to catch up over coffee.

My brother and I turned up to my dad’s place with my brother’s baby one Saturday morning and our mum was there, too, and it was clear she’d stayed the night. And we got the impression it wasn’t the first time. They made up some rubbish excuse and we saw right through it.

Obviously we’d be happy if they got back together but they’re still seeing their partners, which I feel bad about, as they’re lovely people.

We don’t want anyone to get hurt.

Coleen says

I THINK you need to sit down as a family and ask them to explain what’s going on, as awkward as that might be.

It’s not fair to put you in an uncomfortable position with their partners, with whom you’ve formed relationships.

I wonder how they’d react if you or your brother were betraying a partner they’d got to know and who they liked and respected.

I think you need to turn the tables on them and give them a few home truths.

Hopefully, it will jolt them out of their love (sex) bubble and make them think about the consequences of what they’re doing. Then it will force them to take responsibility for it and make some decisions.