SHE SEEMS EMBARRASSED TO BE WITH ME

Dear Coleen

I’VE been seeing my girlfriend for about 18 months and it’s going great.

We met through friends who set us up because they thought we’d get along.

We do have loads in common, as well as amazing sexual chemistry.

My only issue is that while she is really affectionate and tactile when we’re alone, she acts differently when we’re out in public or with friends.

I’ve tried to hold her hand or give her a hug when we’re out and she always jumps away.

I’m starting to get a complex – is she embarrassed to be seen with me? Do I not look the part? Help – I’m beginning to get paranoid about all this.

Dear Coleen

I USUALLY get this type of query from women but my advice would be the same.

Maybe she’s just one of those people who gets embarrassed by public displays of affection. If she wasn’t affectionate when you were alone together but all over you in public, then I’d be worried.

It’s frustrating if you’re an openly affectionate and tactile type of person and your partner isn’t but sometimes you just have to accept that’s the way it is.

And check in with yourself – could this be more to do with your own insecurities rather than anything your girlfriend is doing (or not doing)?

If you’re happy together and the rest of your relationship is good, then don’t turn this into a big deal.

And why not just ask her why she doesn’t like holding your hand – but keep it light or she might get worried about why this is such an issue for you.