KISSED ANOTHER MAN.. NOW I’M IN OVER MY HEAD

Dear Coleen

I’M a married woman in my 30s with two young children. I gave up my job to spend the first few years at home with them, which involves going to a lot of coffee shops during the day.

A few weeks ago, I was in a cafe with my girls when a good-looking guy sat at the table opposite with his daughter. The kids started talking about a game they were playing, so I got talking to the dad.

It was weird but there was chemistry between us right from the start and it was clear he was flirting. Since then, we’ve met up a few times for a coffee with our kids.

Then one day he passed me his number and we met without the kids and ended up kissing. Nothing more has happened, but he definitely wants more. I think I’m in too deep.

I’m attracted to him but confused about why I feel like this when I thought I was happily married. Help.

Coleen says

YOU can still be attracted to people if you’re in a relationship – it’s what you do about it that’s the important bit.

Look, of course it’s flattering when someone takes an interest in you and flirts a bit, especially if life’s a bit boring or your relationship is in a bit of a rut.

I think you need to ask yourself some questions about your marriage – are things mundane?

Do you need to pay more attention to it? Is there anything missing and, if so, what can you do about it? And I think you need to stop meeting this guy for coffee or anything else while you work it out.

You’ve got a lot to lose by having an affair, so think carefully. I’m assuming he’s married or in a relationship, too, so an affair has the potential to upset a lot of lives.