My ex keeps on pestering me to marry him

Dear Coleen

I’M FEELING very stressed as my ex keeps calling me and saying he wants to marry me but then he’s also unclear about his intentions sometimes.

I’m happily in love with someone else but I’ve told my ex that it’s OK for us to be friends.

I don’t really know how to make the situation better. Plus, now I’m pretty sure I’m pregnant and I know my ex will be annoyed.

I don’t really know how to handle it – do you have any ideas?

Coleen says

OK, YOU’RE happy and in love with someone else and suddenly your ex reappears offering marriage – or is he only offering that some of the time?

It sounds to me as if he either can’t stand the thought of you being happy and moving on or he’s realised he made a big mistake somewhere along the line and is making a last-ditch and desperate attempt to win you back.

Look, it sounds as if you have a nice life – a man you love and a baby on the way, so why let your ex ruin all that?

You obviously broke up for a good reason and that’s what you need to keep reminding yourself of. Why do you even care that he’ll be annoyed you’re pregnant? It’s nothing to do with him.

I don’t think you can be friends with your ex right now. You won’t be able to focus on your partner and your new life if your ex is still on the scene. And it’s not fair on your other half either.

So, my advice is, be clear that you’ve moved on, explain you can’t be friends right now because you want to give everything to your new relationship, and stop replying to his messages.

Block his calls if you have to but don’t ruin a good thing by letting your ex into your head. Good luck.