UPSET FRIENDS AT WORK THINK I’M A SHIRKER

Dear Coleen

I’VE been shielding at home since March and I’ve been advised to carry on doing so for the time being as I have an underlying health condition. I’m 63 and coping better than I thought I would.

The issue I have is my friends at work (well, I thought they were friends). None of them have been in touch and I get the impression they think I’m just on one big, long holiday (I’ve heard a rumour).

I’m really disappointed by their reaction. I’m not looking forward to having to go back to work – in fact, I’m dreading it.

My best friend seems distant too and thinks it’s ridiculous that I’m still off work.

I don’t know how to approach this kind of attitude – it’s not my fault I’ve been off for so long.

Am I just being silly?

Coleen says

IF I were you, I’d take control of the situation and send an email to your colleagues saying nicely that you’re looking forward to going back to work after needing to be away for so long because you’re high risk.

If they’re friends, you could also mention you’ve missed hearing from them and hope they’re all safe and well. Maybe it’ll prod a few of them into reaching out. And even if it doesn’t, you’ve made your point in a polite way.

It’s been very interesting watching people react to the virus and the lockdown – it’s brought out the best and the worst in people. If nothing else, you’ll now know who your real friends are – those who have bothered to send a text or pick up the phone to see how you are.

As for your best mate, talk to her and tell her you’d hoped she’d be on your side. If you’re close, your friendship should be able to handle it. Good luck back at work.