FIANCE IS OUT ALL DAY THEN HE IS ABUSIVE

Dear Coleen

SINCE the pubs reopened, my fiance has been out every day. He leaves the house at 9.30am and comes back at 9pm. I don’t know if he is cheating on me but when he is home, he shouts at me. I’ve been hurt before in my last relationship and don’t want to be in the same position again.

Also, before the lockdown, my son was going to come home to live with me when he finished college but he keeps putting it off, which is upsetting. Can you offer some advice on what to do?

Coleen says

DON’T be in the same situation again – take control. It’s not acceptable to disappear all day without telling you where he is or what he’s doing and then be bad tempered when he gets back. Naturally, it’s going to upset and confuse you and make you question your relationship.

He’s the only person who can tell you what’s going on and he should be honest with you. My biggest bit of advice is, please don’t keep going down the path to marriage until you’ve sorted out these issues. He’s not behaving like someone who’s engaged to be married or even wants to be in a relationship with you.

Put yourself first and ask whether you really want to be with a man who doesn’t respect you enough to tell you where he goes all day and why he wants to be away from you all the time. You deserve more.

Reach out to your friends and your son and talk to them about it. If you feel supported, I think it’ll be much easier to make a decision about your future.