LOCKDOWN BROUGHT OUT HIS LAZY SIDE

Dear Coleen

I’VE BEEN with my fiancé for three years and we have a son, who’s nearly two.

We’re planning on getting married in the autumn next year but I’ve started having serious doubts about committing to him.

Over lockdown I’ve seen a side to him that I don’t like – he’s lazy, arrogant and does virtually nothing to help with childcare.

I worked from home throughout lockdown while he was furloughed, yet I still did everything – housework, childcare, you name it.

I did ask him to help out but got sick of nagging him, so it was just easier for me to do it.

I don’t know why I never saw this selfish side to him before or maybe it was always there but because we were both out working, it wasn’t so obvious. I did love him and maybe I still do but feel so disappointed in him. Can you go off someone this quickly?

Coleen says

I THINK lockdown has been make or break for lots of couples. It was a very intense situation and it’s not normal to be cooped up together for so long, especially with the added stress of work, health and financial worries.

I think rather than nag him, you need to have a serious conversation and let him know you’re so unhappy you’re questioning the marriage and the entire relationship.

It might be a wake-up call... or it might not.

Maybe as life gradually returns to normal, his attitude will change. However, when we meet challenges in life – and Covid has been a big one – it’s important to act as a team and support each other.

You can’t just opt out when the going gets tough.

Whatever you do, don’t carry on with your journey to the altar before you’ve worked through these issues.