MY FAMILY CAN’T ACCEPT I HAVE TAKEN HIM BACK

Dear Coleen

I’VE been with my boyfriend for nearly two years. Things were going well until about a year ago when I discovered he was messaging other women and his profile was on a dating site, too. I found this out via his ex.

I threw him out immediately, however, we started talking, I forgave him and we’re living together again and expecting our first child.

I’m happy and I accepted his explanation – he’d come out of a serious long-term relationship where he was cheated on and was nervous about committing to me at the time.

Things are better than ever, but a lot of my family and some of my friends just can’t be happy for me. They don’t trust him and think I’m mad for taking him back and having his baby. It’s ruining what should be a happy time.

Do you have any advice?

Coleen says

LOOK, there are always going to be people who judge us without knowing the full facts or having any real understanding of the situation because they’ve never been in that position themselves. That’s human nature I’m afraid.

If you’re happy and you trust him, then focus on that and on making the relationship stronger.

Yes, it’s upsetting when some people aren’t 100 per cent behind you and perhaps your family have doubts about how stable the relationship is because they don’t know your boyfriend like you do and they don’t want to see you get hurt. But, in time, and if they see you are happy, hopefully they’ll give him a chance and want to get to know him better.