SO UPSET OVER SCHOOL MUM GHOSTING ME

Dear Coleen

I’VE had a friend for about four years who I met when our daughters started school together.

She initiated the friendship and we became really close, helping each other out and her daughter was always at my house. I couldn’t believe I’d actually met someone nice I clicked with from the group of miserable school mums.

But my daughter moved schools in September 2019 and, although we saw each other a bit at the start, things started to drift and I saw her less. Now she never replies to my messages and is basically ghosting me and I have no idea why.

I’m starting to think she was only friends with me because I could help out with her daughter.

What should I do?

Coleen says

THERE’S nothing more frustrating than someone in your life who goes AWOL with no explanation, particularly when you care for that person and have done a lot to help them out.

It’s happened to me and I never got an explanation, so decided there was no option but to move on and stop torturing myself with “why?”

Look, there could be any number of reasons – her relationship has broken down, her job is stressful, she’s met a new guy. Who knows?

You could message her one more time, saying you’re worried about her because she hasn’t been in touch, but she knows where you are and you won’t keep sending messages into a vacuum.

But don’t blame yourself because, the reality is, it probably has nothing to do with you.

She might suddenly pop back into your life with an explanation but, until then, focus on your other friends – the ones who have stuck around.