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Bafta goes virtual

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The Bafta film awards will be held on April 11 without a live audience. The show was pushed back from February 14. The Oscars will be held two weeks later.

NINE teenagers have been charged after a play park was trashed last month.

Cops say eight 15-yearolds and a 16-year-old have been charged with allegedly causing damage to Conifox Adventure Park, Edinburgh, on February 16 and 17.

Thousands of pounds of damage is believed to have been caused.

Police said: “Officers carried out a thorough investigat­ion which included viewing CCTV footage in order to identify those responsibl­e.”

Dear Coleen

ABOUT 15 years ago I was on a night out when a stranger jumped me on the street. He came up behind me and put his hand over my mouth and tried to drag me into an alley. Luckily, the people I was with that night dragged him off me.

At the time, I think I blanked it from my mind and convinced myself I was fine but now I can’t stop thinking about it. And if someone is even walking behind me on the street, I get palpitatio­ns.

What’s made it worse is that, at the time, people said I deserved it and I must have been asking for it. They said at the time I was a bit of a cow, so it was karma.

I feel I am overreacti­ng now because even though he tried, he didn’t actually rape me.

Your advice would mean a lot.

Coleen says

YOU did not deserve this and it was not your fault. Please believe me when I say this and keep repeating it to yourself like a mantra.

Anyone who says differentl­y is ignorant and nasty, and I hope they’re not in your life.

Also you are not overreacti­ng – you are reacting to a traumatic and terrifying incident.

It doesn’t matter how long ago it happened – it still happened, but if you didn’t get help at the time, it’s going to still be there, lying dormant, waiting to be triggered.

You put it to the back of your mind 15 years ago and convinced yourself you were fine because it’s self-preservati­on – it’s a defence mechanism.

But I think it would really help you now to have some counsellin­g and talk about it. You can find a therapist via the British Associatio­n for Counsellin­g & Psychother­apy (bacp.co.uk) and you’ll also find support groups online. It’s never too late to get help, so reach out and good luck.

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