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MY two children are being spoilt rotten by their competing grandparen­ts.

I love my mother dearly but there’s no getting away from the fact that she’s competitiv­e and the queen of the guilt trip.

She rings me up with her diary and there is no escaping her. I regularly get trapped into visiting her when I’d much rather be at home.

And when she turns up here, she’s always armed with yet more toys and sweets.

My husband’s parents are just as bad. They bombard my children with stuff from the internet.

Sourcing rare and special toys keeps them busy, but I’m the one who has to tidy and store this stuff – and I fear my children are getting too materialis­tic.

A LOCAL guy has got the wrong idea.

After just one night of sex he thinks we’re an item.

He keeps texting me and putting soppy messages and poems up on social media.

He’s changed his personal setting to “in a relationsh­ip” and has told loads of people we know that he loves me.

Yes, we did sleep together once after a party, but I’m certainly not his girlfriend and we don’t have any kind of future together.

I also slept with two other guys over that weekend and I’m not going out with them either.

Yet this, particular, hanger-on persists in telling everyone that we’re going out.

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He makes a beeline for me in pubs and at parties. He stands too close, he tells me I smell great and asks if I’m OK.

The other night I met some mates in our local.

We were having a laugh when the guy who I really DO fancy strolled in.

He looked absolutely amazing; all toned, brooding and sexy. He was wearing a vest and his arm muscles were massive.

I almost orgasmed right there and then. Then, however, the moment was ruined by my stalker shoving his face in mine asking: “Do you fancy another drink, love?”

Love? Since when have I been his love?

I’m afraid that at this point I lost it, I shoved him away screaming: “Get out of my face” and now he’s hurt and telling people that I’m a heartless bitch.

Even my oldest friend has told me that I went over the top. I feel like I’m in a bad dream.

Now I’m receiving regular texts and emails from this wombat in which he says he forgives me. He says he’s willing to give me a second chance to redeem myself.

How do you like that?

JANE SAYS: It’s vital that you and your husband become a strong team.

You have to work together and learn to say no. Of course it’s lovely for your children to see their very generous grandparen­ts, but not all the time.

You, and he, need to see your own friends too. Make sure that you purchase a very large calendar of your own and be very firm about when you’re otherwise engaged.

Don’t allow anyone to make you feel guilty.

And if they don’t like it, then they can mutter among themselves.

As for the toys and sweets, you must set limits. Warn them all that you will give stuff to charity if you are overwhelme­d. JANE SAYS: It sounds to me as if this individual is becoming a nuisance.

You need to come clean and tell him, once and for all, that you’re very sorry but you’re not an item. Yes, you did enjoy an intimate few hours together, but that was then and this is now.

The fact is that you’re not interested in pursuing a relationsh­ip with him and he’s to leave you alone from now on.

Sadly, if he still doesn’t get that message – and continues to follow and harass you – then may have to think about reporting him to the police.

Clearly the guy likes you and I don’t suppose anyone would knock him for trying, but things are now in danger of going too far. Tell him that he is under a misapprehe­nsion; you don’t fancy him and you aren’t in any kind of union with him.

It doesn’t matter how hard he pushes it; you’re not going to cave in and go out with him. But, most of all, you have to make it clear that you will not be intimidate­d, bullied or worn down.

Clearly that one night of love meant a lot more to him than it did to you.

Remember some people have difficulty in enjoying sex without forming an emotional attachment. Tread carefully in future.

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FED UP: Her one-night stand keeps texting her with soppy messages and won’t leave her alone
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