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I HATE myself for being a two-faced bitch.
The problem is that a girl I grew up with adores me. I’m her hero for getting out and making something of my life.
She still lives in my old town. Every time I go home to visit the folks, I bump into her. She throws her arms around me and then I’m stuck with her for hours.
She tells me about her boring job. I have to tell her about my “exciting” one and then she insists on us going out. Refusing is not an option.
She and I have nothing in common any more and I constantly slag her off behind her back. I don’t like being this person.
WHAT should I do – chase cash or sex?
I’m being wooed by two very different guys. One is stinking rich but very dull.
He’s below average in bed but very generous with his spending.
He takes me on fantastic dates to top end clubs and restaurants and showers me with gifts.
The other love interest is dirt poor but sets me on fire.
He is very naughty with a vivid imagination.
He’s never once so much as bought me a portion or chips, but the heights he takes me to are off the scale.
The other weekend I had my first ever multiple orgasm with him. Waves of ecstasy rippled through me over and over again and I was left feeling like a simpering wreck.
Kissed
The truth is that I only feel truly alive when I’m in his arms. He’s dirty and slick and knows all the right moves.
If I stick with my wealthy suitor, then I know I’ll have an amazing lifestyle. I’ll get the fairytale wedding, see the world and live in a fantastic home with all mod cons.
But would I always be yearning for better sex with my scruffy soulmate?
The other night during an evening of oysters and champagne in a top hotel, my rich lover announced that he could never forgive infidelity.
If he ever found out that I’d so much as kissed another guy, then he’d dump me on the spot. So now I’m scared. Not only can I not choose between my two lovers, the rich one will definitely ditch me if he gets the slightest whiff of another man in my life.
The pressure is really on to decide, but I don’t know what to do. I’m 26.
JANE SAYS: If you feel you’ve outgrown this pal, you’ve got to be honest and be strong.
Before you next visit home, get in contact with her and explain that you and your family have plans or you fancy a quiet night.
If she continues to impose herself on you, you ask her to give you some space because you’ve had a busy week and need some peace.
Suggest a coffee in a couple of weeks instead. It would be a shame to fall out with her completely, because old friends are often the ones we rely on the most and come back to when others let us down.
But if you can’t stand to spend another minute with her – and you feel a fraud for stringing her along – then you need to start being honest because she really isn’t your responsibility. JANE SAYS: I know it may feel as though you’re stuck in the middle, being forced to choose one or the other, but time is on your side.
You’re young. There is still plenty of time to break out and find ONE guy who ticks the boxes and is absolutely right for you. If you’re really brave, then you’ll tell both guys that you need your own space to really think about the kind of life you wish to lead.
I’m not pretending that this will be easy.
At the moment you’re being courted and adored by two men. They both bring something very different to the party and you’re the centre of attention.
But if you’re serious about finding the Mr Right, then you’ve got to be prepared to leave your comfort zone and see what else is out there.
The alternative is opting for one of your two lovers and making compromises. My gut feeling is that you’ll go with the money, because you’ll consider any future children and want every material advantage for them.
But will you end up feeling sexually frustrated in later life and go on to have affairs?
Will you and your rich guy fall out over your cheating, which he’ll inevitably find out about?
It’s your life and it’s entirely up to you, but you need to start being honest and true. Give yourself all the time you need, because there really is no hurry.