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MY new wife and I are mismatched in bed.
I love her dearly, but we struggle to agree about what constitutes a “normal” sex life.
She wants sex far more often than I do. This is her second marriage and my first and she’s very sexually experienced.
She cheated on her ex all throughout their marriage and admits to a string of ex-lovers numbering “probably around 40…” I often end up feeling as though she’s using me for her own gratification.
She regularly demands intercourse two or three times a night and I struggle.
Her first marriage failed due to her exhusband’s unwillingness to address her needs – hence her need to cheat so often.
The other night she got very cross with PRESS 1 for GENERAL COUNSELLING for all personal and relationship difficulties PRESS 2 for SEXUAL GUIDANCE for all men’s and women’s intimate problems me when she suggested a threesome and I screamed: “No way!”
JANE SAYS: Talk to her about this. Your relationship is new so it’s going to take a while to sort everything out.
Couples in your position often consider a sex contract. These usually work by you deciding whether you have sex on Monday, Wednesday and Friday, while she gets Tuesday, Thursday and Saturday. Sunday is either a day of rest or up for grabs.
Alternatively, you could book up to see a sex therapist via your GP.
If you increasingly find yourself out of your depth and if talk of threesomes is freaking you out, then could it be that you and she might not go the distance?
Don’t forget she has a history of cheating. Keep an open mind and keep talking.