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I SUSPECT a new guy I sit next to at work has a serious porn habit.

Several times of late I’ve glimpsed inappropriate material on his computer screen.

It’s mostly older naked women with younger virile men – and I’ve heard grunts and groans.

He’s a great one for slapping down the laptop lid whenever I come into the room or look over. I’m finding him edgy, defensive and difficult to deal with (as if he’s hiding something). When my boss took him on she gushed that he was creative, focused and would be a great asset, but I haven’t seen any evidence of that.

If anything, he makes me feel uncomfortable with his sneering presence.

I’m worried about making a complaint in case people think I’m bitter or jealous.

I went for his job and didn’t get it. The problem is that I don’t think our boss fully PRESS 1 for GENERAL COUNSELLING for all personal and relationship difficulties PRESS 2 for SEXUAL GUIDANCE for all men’s and women’s intimate problems realises what kind of person she’s taken on – and she’s not someone who likes to be contradicted or shown up.

JANE SAYS: Your boss needs to get over herself. If she’s made a mistake in employing this man, then that needs to be brought to the attention of the powers that be.

If you don’t feel comfortable sitting next to this shifty individual; if his behaviour and attitude are affecting your well-being and your ability to function properly, then you need to speak to your union rep or someone from the HR department.

Be very careful about making outright accusations, but do ask if you can be moved. It’s up to your bosses to investigate any wrongdoing and get this colleague any help he needs.

If you don’t feel you’re being taken seriously, contact ACAS (0300 123 1100).

You don’t have to put up with any of this and no-one is entitled to call you jealous for flagging up an issue that affects you.

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