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MY son detests his sister’s new lover.
He thinks that he’s untrustworthy, sneaky and dodgy.
I agree. He’s a creep and I can’t see why my daughter has shacked up with him.
Now my son says he doesn’t want this bloke at his wedding blessing.
My son and his wife are renewing their vows after her recent brush with cancer. It’s going to be an emotional occasion and this is going to cause ructions.
Unfortunately my daughter thinks her lover is wonderful and insists that he’s reformed, but my son isn’t budging and I’m stuck in the middle.
How can I go to the celebration if my daughter is being snubbed? I’ve begged my son to reconsider but he won’t.
I’M sick of my insensitive mate bragging about her great life.
She never thinks before she opens her great, fat gob.
If she’s not flashing her latest jewellery or designer handbag, she’s crowing about her upcoming holidays and spa trips.
She knows that I’m really poor and struggle to make ends meet, but never stops to think about how her boasts impact on me.
At the moment she’s dating a sugar daddy who can’t stop throwing cash at her.
Apparently he’s obsessed with her and gives her anything she wants.
He doesn’t even mind when she goes off with younger blokes for no-strings sex.
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He’s nice enough, but all they ever talk about is their next restaurant meal, his new car, her latest designer jacket and so on.
I work in an office. Don’t get me wrong, I enjoy my day-to-day tasks, but the pay is rubbish.
Meanwhile my man is desperately trying to keep his family business limping along. Often we struggle to pay our most basic bills, yet my mate doesn’t seem to get that.
The other night she came round here with a new pair of killer heels to show off. I’d been arguing with my bank and it was glaringly obvious that I was upset.
Yet all she could say was “pull yourself together” and then screech: “Listen to this!”
She then spent an hour telling me some rubbish gossip about an “It Girl” I don’t even know. How do I explain to the woman that she is doing my head in when she seems to have the hide of a rhino? Can’t she see how low I am?
I thought she was my mate. I don’t expect her to give me any of her money or her things – and I’m absolutely not jealous of her lifestyle – but doesn’t she care?
JANE SAYS: I suggest you calm down as this is not your business.
Your son and his wife have been through a huge amount. They can invite anyone they like to their significant day.
If they really don’t want this new character eating their food and mixing with their guests (especially if they’re paying) then that’s entirely their call.
It will of course be very unfortunate if your daughter does take offence, but she’s the one who has chosen to take a chance on him.
The celebration isn’t for another six months – a lot could happen between now and then.
Anyway, it’s not your daughter who is being snubbed, only her unsavoury partner.
Stay out of it. Maybe this episode will make her think on. JANE SAYS: Your spoilt mate is so caught up with her own selfimportance that she doesn’t want to hear about your troubles.
It’s a shame that your long-term friendship has turned sour but you can’t surround yourself with someone who is so insensitive and inconsiderate.
A true friend would be interested in your life. She would have helpful suggestions regarding your work and financial situation.
Gushing about an upcoming holiday when you can’t even afford to put on the heating is ignorant and downright rude.
I suggest you have this out with her. Tell her that you’re not jealous but you are struggling to understand where she’s coming from.
Can’t she see how much you’re suffering? Doesn’t it cross her mind to make any extra effort for you?
Sadly, if she simply likes to brag and is never going to be there for you, maybe you’ll have to conclude that you’ve grown too far apart?
But don’t stop fighting for a better future for your fella and yourself.
Should you speak to your GP about your feelings of isolation and despair? What about looking for a new job, retraining or business grants?
Do your homework and use your energy more positively.