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I SENT a message to my sister about my mother-in-law being a nightmare.
But I hit the wrong button and sent it to all of my family – including my in-laws.
Now everyone is up in arms. I’m being called a stirrer and a troublemaker.
Several people have stopped talking to me and one aunt has made it clear I won’t be welcome at her upcoming wedding.
What makes me sick is the hypocrisy.
Everyone hates my mother-in-law without exception because she is aggressive and rude.
The whole family slag her off behind her back. My only crime is getting caught out by a stupid mistake.
I’m very tempted to expose everyone and bring them all down with me. Dare I?
I REALLY am my own worst enemy – I can’t stand nice guys and always go for rats.
My last three boyfriends were absolute horrors. All three let me down, broke my heart and took my money.
Now I’ve spotted another bad lad and I’m excited, even though a perfectly lovely colleague has said he would marry me in a heartbeat.
My colleague has got money, manners and place of his own, but he just doesn’t turn me on.
What is my problem? Have I got a death wish or something?
The freak I do like goes to my gym. On the face of it, he’s bad news. He’s self-obsessed, moody and vain.
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He doesn’t have a good reputation and I think he may have been in trouble a few times.
My friends think he’s scary and deliberately go out of their way to avoid him, but he thrills me.
I see in him a challenge and a fight. I imagine that if we were together then the sex would be hard and wild.
We’d argue and scream and then fall into bed in a tumble of anger and hot passion. I get all horny just thinking about it…
My friends point out that he looks just as unreliable and troublesome as all my other exes.
They ask me why I don’t learn from the past and why I carry on making the same mistakes.
I know my adoring colleague and I would have a lovely life together, but I don’t want lovely – I want dirty. I’m used to being dragged to bed by my hair and I love that. But, in my darkest moments, I worry that I’m destined for a life of disappointment.
At the moment I suspect that I’ll get with my new “crazy guy” in the end. I’ll lose my head, we’ll have a few months of madness and then I’ll count the cost in terms of cash and my credibility.
How can I break this cycle and just be normal?
JANE SAYS: I urge you to end this now. You made a genuine mistake when you hit the wrong key.
Most of us have either sent or received wrong messages in our time.
What’s more important is that you bury this upset and move on.
Apologise to those concerned, but if your mother-in-law is not interested in making up, then give her time.
As for dragging everyone else into your row, forget it.
By threatening to bring everyone else down with you, you’re suggesting revenge – which is never a good route to go down.
Accept you messed up and put it all behind you. This will blow over in time. Just pay more attention in future. JANE SAYS: Clearly you’re a thrillseeker. Not for you the nice guy or the easy life. You always have to pick the roughest, toughest nut to crack.
You love the thrill of the chase and the challenge of a bad man, but where does it get you?
As you say yourself, you’ve been ripped off and let down more times than you care to remember.
From where I’m sitting, I have to confess that your behaviour looks a little bit sad and pathetic.
It’s one thing fancying the bad boys when you’re an impressionable teen, but as an adult? I don’t think so.
You clearly invest a lot of time and energy in your edgy relationships. Well, wouldn’t that energy be better used elsewhere?
What provision have you made for the future? How much energy are you putting into your job, your home and friends and family?
I worry you’re going to look back one day and ask: “Where did my life go? What have I achieved?”
You’re never going to save or cure these rats, so stop trying.
Obviously, you can’t start a relationship with your colleague if you don’t fancy him, but surely you could give the nice guys a chance to prove themselves?
They may just surprise you…