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WHEN it was my friend’s birthday, I hosted a big lunch at my house.
I bought her a spa voucher and made her a pretty card.
For my birthday I got a message on social media promising me that a present would follow – it never has.
I haven’t seen or heard from her since.
My boyfriend thinks that I should storm round there and demand what’s due to me, but I’m too embarrassed.
I just feel so let down.
I made such an effort and, clearly, I mean absolutely nothing to her.
Over the years I’ve also helped her disabled mother and treated her to restaurant meals when she’s been too poor to go out – and I didn’t even get a card. Why is she being so mean?
I AM so desperate for love and so hungry for affection that I jump on anyone.
Male or female – it doesn’t matter to me.
Female mates shy away from me every time I get drunk because they know I’ll try to snog them.
And several male colleagues have complained that I’m too full-on. At work events and leaving parties I’ll grope anyone. I’m not choosy or proud.
I even screw strangers who are interested and deal with the consequences the next day.
Alone
I don’t like being like this. I don’t appreciate being called the local desperado, but what is a girl to do when her bloke simply isn’t interested in making her scream?
At the moment my other half is away working in Europe with his brother.
I couldn’t even tell you where because he didn’t see fit to inform me. As a result I find myself frustrated and alone.
I’ve got six months off work due to a compulsory sabbatical and am climbing the walls with boredom and desire. No tradesman is safe at my door.
I keep finding excuses to get one, particular local handyman round to my house. I’m obsessed with the guy.
He fixes everything from dripping taps to my raging libido.
He charges me a fixed rate for a full day’s work – which includes the sex.
We rip each other’s clothes off. He throws me on the bed and I let him do anything he likes, which is usually seriously kinky.
Then he showers and goes home to his girlfriend.
He never rings me or asks me how I am because he simply doesn’t care. I’m nothing but another client to him.
How did it come to this? I used to be a vibrant, attractive woman. I was going places.
Now I’m fully aware that I’m a laughing stock.
JANE SAYS: Don’t be tempted to drop round or call up your friend.
Believe me, she is acutely aware that she has let you down.
I understand that she may be broke, but what was wrong with inviting you to her place for a cup of tea?
I get the impression that she may have taken advantage of your generous nature in the past.
It’s very sad when people disappear or friendships come to an end.
It could be that this friend is jealous of you and resentful of the life you lead.
But how can you be expected to read her mind and to understand how she’s feeling when she has done a runner? JANE SAYS: Just stop and take stock of your life, because you’ve obviously lost your way. Your employers have given you the gift of time. A six-month sabbatical? I bet everyone you know is secretly thinking: “Wow. Lucky you!”
Use these six months wisely. Draw up a list of everything you wish to achieve. Go and reinvent yourself.
Get yourself professional help regarding your drinking and promiscuous behaviour because you need to start again.
You’re not stupid, you know that the way you’re carrying on now is childish and ridiculous.
Do you love your partner enough JANE SAYS: You could try cornering your brother and appealing to his “better nature”.
But he might not even have one.
If he thinks he’s fully entitled to your hard-up parents’ food, drink and cash, then it may be a wasted conversation.
It’s probably more important that you speak to your parents and offer to spend the rest of your life to support them instead. waiting for him? Make it clear that you
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