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I CONSTANTLY get the impression my girlfriend is testing my commitment to her.
Recently she rang me in hysterics. She was alone at her flat and said that she could hear a noise.
I rushed over only to find her cuddling her neighbour’s cat who got in through the kitchen window.
In the time we’ve been together I’ve picked her up from nightclubs at 4am, I’ve lent her emergency money and cancelled trips out with my mates at her command.
Now, I’ve just had a conversation with a mate. Apparently my girl’s been bragging to his wife about “testing me”.
Apparently she gets a kick out of giving me the run-around and checking how committed I am to our relationship.
I resent this. I’m a decent person. How dare she do this?
MY sexual partners were always much older than me.
What can I say? I’m only turned on by the more mature woman.
Some people call me a gold-digger and a leech, but it’s a fact of life that divorcees and widows tend to have a lot more disposable income than girls of my age (25).
I love women with confidence and attitude, women who aren’t afraid to instigate sex and grab what they want.
I don’t have a problem with my taste whatsoever.
My problem is explaining it to the other women in my life.
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I grew up in a very strong, female dominated family. My dad left when I was two and I couldn’t tell you where he is now.
My mum, nan and sisters think they own me. They don’t like me telling them that I make my own rules and do things my way.
My nan is desperate to see me married before she dies. She’s always banging on about the fact that I “never bring home a nice young lady” to meet her.
But she has no idea that one of my current lovers is nearly as old as she is.
And then there are the various local girls who want to go out with me. I’m not being big headed, but I’m a good-looking guy. I work out and keep myself fit.
The fact is that girls around here do nothing for me.
I don’t fancy weight-obsessed twenty-somethings with handbag collections, stupid hang-ups and nothing to say for themselves. The best woman I’ve ever slept with was a rich, ball-breaking chief executive of 50-plus. She was harder than any bloke I’ve ever known and a demon in the bedroom.
She did stuff to me that made my eyes water for weeks. She paid for new clothes, watches and a holiday too. What selfie-loving local girl is going to give me that kind of experience? Picture posed by models
JANE SAYS: Your girl may consider herself clever, but she’s manipulative and sly.
If she’s unsure about this relationship she should be honest about it and speak to you like an adult.
I suggest you tell her that she’s been rumbled. You’ve seen through her pathetic “tasks” and feel insulted.
If you’re inclined to give her a second chance, then insist you start again on a level playing field.
My instinct, however, is that she’s too tricky for you and that you should save yourself before she picks up the phone and cries wolf again. JANE SAYS: You’re an adult and you can live your life any way you choose. You don’t have to justify yourself or answer to anybody. However, maybe you would find life a little easier if you started being honest with all interested parties.
Tell your mum, nan and sisters that you have no plans to get married any time soon. Explain that you have a good life with some very good friends.
You’re not lonely, unhappy or hiding any deep, dark secrets. So, leave it. Please.
As for the girls who fancy you, be kind and tell them that they’re barking up the wrong tree.
You have your sex life sorted, thank you very much. You’re a private person who chooses to conduct his relationships on his own terms.
Make it clear that you’re happy to be a friend, but they’re not to harbour any romantic hopes or dreams, because you’re spoken for.
There are no rules when it comes to who we fancy or fall in love with, it’s a case of each to their own.
As long as you’re being careful, not ripping anyone off and not deliberately hurting a soul, then you’re entitled to have fun.