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I’M having secret sex sessions with a neighbour.
She’s far more passionate and wild than my uptight wife has ever been.
Our sex is dirty and extreme and she’s an addictive lady. But I don’t know where this is going to lead.
She’s saying she loves me and wants us to be together all the time, but what about my marriage?
My wife and I have had our problems, but I’ve never thought of leaving.
Since being made redundant I’ve lost my way. My wife now works full-time and pays all the bills, for which I’m grateful.
My lover is divorced and lonely. I fear she’ll tell my wife about us. I hate myself. I’m confused and feel guilty.
MY mum’s new boyfriend is younger than I am and a total moron.
The woman is a sex-mad disgrace. While I work hard she’s running around with a group of idiots who have never grown up.
Her latest lover is two years my junior (I’m 27). He used to go to my school and was always in trouble with the headmaster.
As a teen he spent time in a youth detention centre and now he’s something of a wheeler-dealer.
The problem is that she thinks he’s marvellous. He drives around in a pimped-up car and is always flashing the cash.
When I ask her what he actually does for a living she mutters: “Oh, a bit of this and that”. In other words he’s as shifty as they come.
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There’s no doubt in my mind that she’s only with him for his ripped body and some great sex.
Any time I go round to her place, he’s invariably sprawled out on the sofa or in the garden topping up his tan. My stupid mother visibly drools over him and I can’t get an ounce of sense out of her.
They deliberately snog and grope in front of me and I feel sick. Once she got a bit tipsy and actually tried to tell me how good he is in bed – I had to get out.
This bloke is too young for her. He’s bleeding her dry and making her look a fool. She’s already admitted that several of our relatives are outraged and have stopped talking to her.
I don’t blame them. I’m embarrassed too. She thinks she’s so clever. She keeps saying that I’m just jealous and need to get over myself. She’s even said that a good “session” would calm me down and do me good. I hate seeing my silly old mum make a complete fool of herself in public.
JANE SAYS: You have to hold your hands up, confess all and take the consequences like the adult you are.
Yes, you’ve been a fool – and you were a willing partner in the sex with your lover – but you can’t allow her to have a hold over you.
This has to end now and you have to try and rebuild your marriage, for everyone’s sake.
If this househusband idea isn’t working out as planned – and you need to get a job of your own – then you and your wife need to talk about it.
What about retraining, higher education or charity work? What are your passions and your dreams?
If you feel you’ve had something of a mid-life crisis, then speak to your GP too about any help that might be available to you. JANE SAYS:You may cringe every time your mother pecks her younger boyfriend on the cheek.
You may squirm when she attempts to tell you how much she fancies him, but at least she sounds happy.
She’s brought you up and reached a certain age and clearly feels this is her time now. I suspect that she’s seen other friends and relatives suffer hardship, fall ill and even die around her and she’s decided to live every day to the full.
I’m sure that she’s acutely aware that her boyfriend isn’t perfect.
But he gives her great sex and makes her feel good about herself, so he’ll certainly do for now.
I suggest you keep out of his way if he winds you up too much. Don’t be too quick to judge because none of us know just what’s around the corner.
Get on with your own business and leave your mother to have her fun and make her own mistakes.
Maybe the whole affair will end in disaster. Her boyfriend may make a fool of her and break her heart, but that could happen with anyone of any age.
Just make sure that you tell her to keep her money to herself and to start asking questions if he asks her to look after anything for him or suggests she gets involved in his business dealings.
Ultimately she’s an adult and free to do as she pleases. I’m sure you wouldn’t like her meddling in your personal life.