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WHEN I walk into my bedroom, I often notice the woman opposite is naked.
She’s got a great body and often she touches herself and smiles provocatively at me.
Our flats are on a new estate and pretty squashed together so I can see everything.
I deliberately never acknowledge her because I don’t want to get into trouble.
But I don’t know what her game is and what message is she trying to send?
Does she want me to go round there and bed her?
I know that she’s got a bloke, but he’s not there much.
My partner and I live apart and things aren’t exactly great with us, so I wonder if this could be the start of something exciting. What do you think?
MY bloke thinks nothing of charging for sex.
If lonely, rich women want his body then he simply names his price.
He describes himself as a model/professional escort. But I think he’s a tart.
He flies all over the world for work – one minute he’s in London then he’ll get a call ordering him to jet out to Monaco, Barcelona or Paris.
I never know if he’s rushing off to meet a famous photographer for a shoot or to join a loaded divorcee for no-strings sex.
The uncertainty does my head in because he refuses to gives me details of his jobs.
Jealous
He claims it’s best that I’m in the dark regarding specifics. He says it’s all business and it’s his way of earning us money.
He says I shouldn’t be jealous or angry – I should be relieved that he’s able to earn decent sums and still have plenty of free time on his hands for me.
I’m so confused and I don’t know how I feel.
When we met he was running a restaurant, but then his business partner ripped him off and everything went pear-shaped.
He worked at a gym for a while where one of his co-workers told him about modelling and escort work. He reckoned he could earn a fortune… if he was prepared to be flexible.
Now my man is well established with many clients who ask for him by name. I admit that in the past few months we’ve paid off loads of our bills and had some very nice holidays. But sleeping with him just isn’t the same, especially when I know he’s probably come straight from a complete stranger’s bed and into mine.
There’s also the shame attached to lying to my family and friends about what he really does for a living. I can only tell them “male model” so many times without someone asking questions.
JANE SAYS: Keep away from this flasher – she sounds like trouble.
She’s playing games, winding you up and could be dangerous.
Buy net curtains or a blind and certainly don’t acknowledge her or flash back.
You have absolutely no way of knowing how stable she is or what her agenda might be.
She could be trying to frame you, for all you know.
Write down everything that has happened so far and keep a diary in future.
Sadly, if she continues to make a spectacle of herself, you may need to contact the police.
As for your partner, if things aren’t good with her, then you should make sorting out your real relationship your priority. JANE SAYS: Everything has its price and the price you are paying for nice holidays and a cushy lifestyle seems to be a pretty high one. You’re dating a man who earns his living from having sleazy sex with sad, lonely women.
He claims to do a bit of male modelling too, but how many pictures of him have you actually seen published?
My guess is that his escort work takes up the vast majority of his time.
I don’t accept that this is the only career open to him. What effort has he made to find a proper, decent job in recent months?
How is he squaring his sex-forsale “career” with his conscience – or doesn’t he actually have one? I worry that you’re throwing your life away on a man with no moral compass.
He may view escort work as easy money but, as we all know, there is no such thing.
What about your sexual health and emotional wellbeing?
Why should you have to share him with other women?
And how are you able to make plans when he’s always flying off all over the place?
Tell him you have had enough – if he’s not prepared to change, then you can’t tolerate this lifestyle any longer.