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IT breaks my heart that the woman I’m desperately in love with doesn’t feel the same way about me.
We’re a couple. We’ve been together for five years and she’s respectful and kind.
But she doesn’t lust after me or miss me when I’m not around.
We both like hotel breaks, good meals and holidays and have a jolly time in each other’s company. She always makes an effort with her clothes and hair and I’m proud to have her on my arm. But I’m not her dream guy. I can see it in her eyes.
When we make love, her gaze is always cold. We have a lively sex life but I’m convinced she’s faked every orgasm.
People say we’re a fantastic couple and we’re lucky to have found each other but our relationship is unequal. Where am I going wrong? And how do I make her love me completely and utterly? PRESS 1 for GENERAL COUNSELLING for all personal and relationship difficulties PRESS 2 for SEXUAL GUIDANCE for all men’s and women’s intimate problems
JANE SAYS: The problem is that if your partner hasn’t fallen in love with you after five years together then it’s not going to happen now.
If the passion isn’t there she can’t force or fake it.
You need to ask yourself whether your relationship is good enough? Can you spend the next five, 10 or 20 years on the arm of a woman who isn’t committed to you 100%? You decide.
On the plus side you have the great holidays and outings, you don’t argue and you don’t fight. But that underlying passion isn’t there and you don’t rip yourselves apart in the bedroom either. It’s a gamble.
Why continue to make love to a woman with cold eyes when you could be in a warm love affair with someone who genuinely cares?
However, starting again with someone new could be stressful and unpredictable. Why don’t you talk to her honestly about how you really feel?