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I’M in a new relationship with a gorgeous older woman.
I’m a fit guy of 23 and never fancied mature women before meeting her.
Our sex life is amazing. She’s been so patient with me, because I was sexually inexperienced and selfish when we met.
But now that I know how to pleasure and please her, we’re red hot in bed. The orgasms I’m experiencing are sublime.
The only problem is that she’s something of a control freak out of the bedroom. Not only has she banned me from seeing all of my old pals, but she is putting pressure on me to move out of my blokey flat share as soon as possible.
She seems to be testing my commitment to the limit.
She’s even talked about us having a big, white wedding. It’s just all moving a bit too fast. I’ve hinted at feeling rushed, but she gets very hurt and feels insulted.
She refuses to meet my parents because PRESS 1 for GENERAL COUNSELLING for all personal and relationship difficulties PRESS 2 for SEXUAL GUIDANCE for all men’s and women’s intimate problems she knows they’re going to disapprove of her. This is making things awkward for me too, because my Mum and Dad are actually very cool and accepting.
JANE SAYS: You’ve got to assert yourself. You need to remember that you are an individual in your own right.
You may well be in a relationship with this lady, but she doesn’t own you.
It doesn’t matter how old she is, she needs to hear (and understand) that you will not be pushed around. Take a deep breath, sit her down and explain that you like her loads, but have to be able to breathe. If everything is moving too fast, then it must stop.
Sadly, if she can’t take constructive criticism, then you need to tell her you need a cooling off period. Don’t feel guilty and don’t apologise for insisting on space.
If staying in your blokey flat share means so much to you, then stand your ground so she understands you are not her toy.
MY mate is organising her hen holiday in Italy. The costs are eye-watering.
As well as the flights and hotel, her cousin has put out a hush-hush email saying that she’s booked fine wines and spa treatments for an extra £200 each.
She’s even suggesting that we should divvy up the cost of the bride-to-be’s contribution – and all pay that too.
How am I supposed to cope?
JANE SAYS: I urge you to bail out now while you can.
Tell the bride-to-be that you can’t afford this kind of expense and that you’ll see her for a drink before the wedding. The fact is that you mustn’t feel obliged to do anything that is going to plunge you into debt. Be strong and honest and don’t worry about anyone else.