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I CRAVE a beautiful baby. The problem is that my boyfriend isn’t very good looking.
He’s ordinary with a big nose, mousy hair and a pockmarked complexion.
Don’t get me wrong, he’s a lovely bloke, but he’s no Mark Wright.
He also has two grown up sons from previous relationships who are the image of Shrek so I know exactly what his offspring look like.
I’m thinking tall, dark skinned and piercing blue eyes. I’m thinking sperm donor.
Am I wicked? Will anyone ever know?
I could always claim that my potential little brain surgeon is a genetic throwback on my mother’s side.
I’M having regular sex with a married man, but struggle to see where we’re headed.
We both go to the same gym and he drops me home three nights a week after we’ve worked out.
We’re wildly hot for each other and our sex life is sizzling.
I fancy him and he says I’m gorgeous, but he’s never mentioned leaving his wife and I’m too scared to put him on the spot.
We first got together about six months ago in the bar. I was getting myself a juice and he was reading the paper.
I mentioned to the barman that my car was in the garage and my lover offered to drive me home.
I’d seen him around and he seemed safe, so I said: “Thanks.”
Session
We started flirting and realised that we had so much in common.
On the way he stopped in a layby and asked if he could kiss me. I said: “All right.” One thing led to another and we ended up bonking on his back seat.
That’s been the pattern ever since. After every gym session we steam up the windows in his car before he drops me home.
I often wonder why his wife doesn’t question the length of time it takes him to work out. But, apparently, she’s always asleep when he gets back.
I’m nearly 30 and have always been very unlucky in love.
My last boyfriend left me after I asked him to marry me and the one before that slept with all of my friends before running off with my ex-boss. I dream about finally settling down, having my own place and a man to love.
But, as the only guy I’m currently intimate with is already married, I’m not holding my breath.
Do you think he actually likes me or is he just a user?
JANE SAYS: If your man is good enough to share your life, then why isn’t he good enough to father your child?
Maybe he isn’t George Clooney in the looks department, but if he’s kind, decent and mentally well balanced, then what more could you ask for?
Surely your mother taught you that there is more to life than looks.
If you were to go behind your man’s back and buy sperm from a website, then you’d be lying to your man and (eventually) your unborn child.
Stop being so shallow. If you’re lucky enough to get pregnant by your partner and go on to have a healthy, happy baby, then you should consider yourself very lucky indeed. JANE SAYS: This is going nowhere. Do yourself a favour and find new things to do in future.
Join a new gym, arrange to see friends or take up a new hobby.
In short it’s vital that you do anything to avoid being in a confined space with this man again. What you have at the moment is sneaky, sordid and very grubby. While you’re on the back seat of his car, his wife is back at home in bed.
She’s not stupid. She knows how long it takes to work out.
If they’re having problems with their sex life or she gets some kind of kick out of imagining her man with another woman, then that’s nothing to do with you.
My overall impression is that your whole life needs a complete shake-up.
Draw up a list of your dreams and everything you’d like to achieve. Don’t ever see or have sex with this man again. But do have a sexual health check because you don’t know who else he might be having sex with.
If your previous relationships have gone wrong, then be honest and ask yourself why.
What do you have to do to turn things round and become the happy, successful woman you deserve to be?
At the moment you’re throwing yourself away and you really do deserve so much more.
And, in answer to your final question, yes I do think this creep is an opportunist and a user.