MY mother has one topic of conversation – grandchildren.
She is now so obsessed with me giving her grandkids I’m scared to call her.
My husband and I married in 2014 and have a lovely life, but we are not ready to start a family yet.
I’m enjoying my marriage, my holidays and my friends too much.
She doesn’t understand this and calls me everything from selfish to weird simply because she’s desperate to keep up with her friends.
Two of her closest pals have grandsons and my mother is mad with envy. This is driving a terrible wedge between us.
She stormed out of her own birthday lunch when I said I was thinking of accepting a big promotion at work, which will require lots of foreign travel.
MY boyfriend has made an old flame pregnant.
He says he’s sorry, but she is keeping the child and he intends to be a good father.
I feel so humiliated and stupid. Apparently they started seeing each other again after a school reunion in June.
Several of his “old gang” went on to a club after the event ended and he and his ex “reconnected”.
In other words they got drunk, booked into a cheap hotel and romped each other’s brains out for old times’ sake.
Now he says he’s happy to stay with me, but I have to accept that things are going to be different from now on.
He’s not getting back with her, because she’s already got an on/ off partner out in Spain, but he is going to financially support her and see the kid.
I’m desperate for a child of my own, yet he says that won’t be possible now as he’ll have too many financial responsibilities as he also pays his parents’ mortgage.
He and I have been together for several years and live in a gorgeous cottage that I’ve made cosy and comfortable.
The other day I really lost my rag and stormed round to his pregnant hussy’s house.
I hammered on the knocker and she came out with an annoying smirk on her face.
I begged her to leave my bloke alone and she hissed: “No chance. He’s my meal ticket from now on.” I broke down in tears and she just sneered at me. Naturally, I told him all of this later and he actually laughed and said she was winding me up.
It seems as if she can do no wrong in his eyes. Now where do I stand? If I’m absolutely honest I dread the upset and upheaval that comes with moving on.
How can I bear to lose my man, my life and my dream home?
JANE SAYS: You need to keep your distance until she calms down and accepts you are an adult with thoughts and plans of your own.
Explain there is no point in her stamping her foot because you are not interested in her desire to impress her pals.
Possibly, in the future, you’ll have a child and she’ll be invited to play her role, but you won’t submit to any form of emotional blackmail.
You’re fully aware that your biological clock may be ticking away, but you don’t need her to tell you how to live your life.
Is she struggling with life in general? Is there anything else on her mind that she’d like to talk about? JANE SAYS: You’ve made this current house comfortable and cosy and you’ll go on to do the same wherever you live next.
The reality is that you cannot allow your property to stand in the way of you and a fresh start.You’re in the prime of your life yet everything is falling down around you.
Your boyfriend has made an exgirlfriend pregnant and seems to be smitten with her all over again.
Meanwhile he’s told you that you cannot have the child you crave because he’s too overwhelmed with the forthcoming baby, plus his parents’ expenses. What kind of future are you actually looking at with him?
Face it, he’s not the man for you. He’s too sly and dishonest with way too much attitude and baggage. Take a deep breath today and start looking for somewhere new to move to. Speak to friends and family about renting a spare room. Then tell your cheating boyfriend that he’s on his own.
The sad truth is that some people are just not worth bothering with – and your fella is one of them. Something must have spurred him on to cheat on you in the first place.
He can’t blame booze or the heat of the moment for checking into a hotel and having sex with his ex.
Now he is looking forward to becoming a dad and you are seemingly superfluous.