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MY girlfriend is too fond of telling other people about our sex life – especially when she’s with her girlfriends or gets drunk.
I find her indiscreet and disloyal. I have challenged her about it on several occasions but she just laughs and says that she is only having a bit of fun.
But I really don’t need everyone knowing about how many times I can do it and what our favourite position is.
My boss is organising a big dinner in the first week of next month to celebrate a record year of business.
He’s already indicated that we’re going to be on his table as I’m the top salesman.
What if she gets drunk and goes into her routine in front of him?
He’s very straightlaced and wouldn’t be at all amused. I think her problem is that she gets too excited and carried away with herself.
AFTER three happy years together my girlfriend has decided she’s going to live abroad.
Most of her stuff has been sold, her room is up for rent and I think she has handed in her notice at work.
Apparently she’s going travelling for six months and then hopes to settle in New Zealand with her dad and stepmother.
I stress the word “apparently” because she hasn’t bothered to tell me her plans.
Everything I know comes from her mates who seem to know what is going on.
Sadly, my girl hasn’t chosen to share anything with me, which I find disrespectful and rude.
To provoke her, I even suggested a romantic weekend in Paris in the new year.
She wrinkled her nose and said she couldn’t really afford it.
When I said that I wanted to pay, she squirmed saying that she didn’t know what she was doing after New Year.
I pushed it further with the name of a hotel I’d found and she accused me of bullying her! All I want to know is where I stand.
We’re still making love and she still tells me that she loves me, but if she is moving on, then where does that leave me?
I thought we were getting on well and had a future together.
All I want to do is prove to her that I love her and need her to stay by my side.
My other issue is why can’t we go travelling together?
All she has to do is say the word and I’d happily give up my rotten job and tell my parents to stick my old bedroom.
I’ve always yearned to travel and a new life in New Zealand would suit me just fine. She just won’t suggest it.
What can I say when the woman I love simply won’t be straight with me about our future together or apart?
JANE SAYS: You are entitled to your dignity and your privacy. If you can’t trust your girl to keep the details of your sex life between the two of you, then can you trust her on anything?
Get her on her own and make it clear that you’re absolutely serious about this.
Your sex life isn’t a joke and isn’t for public consumption.
Ultimately, only you can decide just how much you’re prepared to put up with.
Is she actually caring and mature enough for you? Or is she a bit of a liability? JANE SAYS: If you genuinely believe the rumours and think your girlfriend is on the brink of a big move away, then you must confront her.
You can’t allow her to mess you around for a minute longer. She may feel that she’s being terribly clever but this is your life and you deserve to know where you stand.
Talk to her today and make it very clear that you are not blind, deaf or stupid.
Do you actually need to go to her boss to find out the truth?
Sadly, if it turns out that this move is a done deal and that she’s got her new life all sorted out, then I suggest you bow out gracefully.
I strongly suspect that she’s taking the coward’s way out of your relationship. Presumably she’s planning to leave all of the details to the very last minute so that she doesn’t have to deal with too many awkward questions or requests to reconsider from you.
It’s always sad when things come to an end, but you cannot allow your girlfriend to pick away at you.
Toughen up and start calling the shots. Stop having sex and start spreading your wings.
Build a new future, because you have to conclude that she’s a very single-minded person who is about to become a part of your dating history and your past.