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DEALING with my partner’s ex is an ongoing struggle.
He (the dad of my partner’s children) loves a drama.
Whenever the kids stay with us, he quizzes us about what they’ve done, where they’ve been and what they spent pocket money on.
The children are primary school age and are great, but he’s a nightmare.
Nothing we ever do is good enough. It drives me crazy but my partner won’t say anything as he threatens her with not seeing the kids again.
I know they are only young, but they don’t seem to do anything much for themselves either – even easy tasks such as cutting their food up or getting a drink.
I think they take advantage of my partner because she runs around all weekend doing whatever they ask.
It’s causing rows between us. I’VE had enough of a colleague constantly flashing at me.
This guy is the office joker and very over-the-top – he’s loud, rude and outrageous.
Admittedly, he does workout a lot and has an amazing body but I don’t need to see any more of it.
From ripping open his shirt to show his abs to dropping his pants, I’ve seen everything.
If he’s not mooning then he’s waggling his willy and making sausage jokes.
I’m no prude, I grew up with five brothers and I’m not surprised by anything. But do I really have to put up with this in my face?
I’m dreading our upcoming Christmas party where I know he’ll expect a dance like last year.
Whipped
I now regret it so much – it was a huge mistake. I know he fancies me, because he’s always telling me that I’m gorgeous and we’d be so great together in the sack.
But I’m really bored of being embarrassed and compromised.
The thing is, I know that he is revealing himself on purpose in an effort to seduce me.
I’m sure that loads of girls would be more than happy to jump into bed with him, but I’m just not interested.
The first time he exposed himself I was at my desk eating my lunch when he suddenly said: “Look at that” and flashed.
He honestly thought I’d be so turned on by the sight of him, that I’d jump right on and enjoy the ride of my life. A few days later he whipped out his todger after a boozy lunch. And that’s been the pattern ever since.
I’m angry and hacked off. I’ve already told him that if he ever oversteps the mark again I’m going to our boss and the police in that order. But he just laughs at me.
After that Christmas dance he really won’t take me seriously.
JANE SAYS: The reality is the children won’t be this young forever.
They’ll soon be teenagers and doing their own thing.
Sit tight, hold your nerve and get through these tricky times with as much dignity and integrity as you can.
Yes, their father is challenging, but keeping the peace must be your main concern, because this is all about the children and keeping them happy and calm.
If things get too much then go for a walk until you calm down.
Don’t let your partner’s ex get to you or he will have won. JANE SAYS: This matter is neither funny nor fair. The man is a pest and needs to be told in no uncertain terms he’s harassing and embarrassing you.
Too many times now he has deliberately exposed himself and intimidated you. If he really does fancy you and thinks you could have a future together, then he’s got a funny way of seducing you.
What person in their right mind woos a prospective partner by waving their privates about?
Tell him today that you are not interested in him as a lover.
Last Christmas was a one-off that won’t be repeated. You don’t fancy him and, as of this moment, you don’t actually have very much respect for him either.
As for the risk of being cornered by him at the office party, I think you should feign a headache and stay at home.
Could it be that he needs to be reported to your boss and the police right now?
Please promise me that you will dial 999 immediately if you ever feel in danger from this man.
Also, start looking for a new job well away from him.
I strongly suspect someone like him has got a history of this sort of behaviour.
I very much doubt you are the first person he has flashed, and he needs to be stopped before he upsets anyone else.