I’VE been left very disappointed by a girl I thought was serious about me.
She and I met online a few months ago. She was always upbeat, friendly and funny. We finally met up and made love and it was fantastic.
But since then, things have never been the same. We still speak, but only meet up when she needs a place to stay.
As she’s in the country and I’m in the city, my flat is very handy for shopping, theatres, meet-ups with old friends etc.
She knows I’d like us to be together, but she won’t commit.
We sometimes have sex but only when she wants something.
I think she might be a user, as she’s asked me to loan her £300.
SEX with my sister-inlaw is the best. She and I have been meeting up in secret for months.
She blows my mind with her role-playing games and wicked ways. She makes my wife seem like a bucket of lard in bed.
Now my wife has announced she is joining us for Christmas lunch. How am I supposed to sit opposite the woman who rocks my world and eat my meal?
Apparently, all of the in-laws were supposed to be going to a hotel in the country for the big day, but there’s been a mix-up with the booking and they’re all coming to us instead.
I’m bricking it. Everything about my saucy lover oozes sparkle and sex appeal.
From her fabulous figure to her filthy sense of fun, she touches my soul like no-one else.
Any time we tumble into bed together, I’m reminded just how hot she really is. This amazing woman is up for anything.
Some nights she’s so wild it’s like she’s consuming me whole.
I’ve always travelled with my job in sales so it’s easy for me to stay away a couple of times a week. My wife doesn’t even question my whereabouts any more.
I hit my lover’s place and it’s bedlam for hours. My lover thinks this whole drama is absolutely hysterical.
She jokes that she’s going to spike my drinks and ravish me in front of everyone. I wouldn’t put it past her.
She’s been single for two years since breaking up with her last boyfriend, who bored her rigid.
She says I’m much more her type and is determined to steal me from under my wife’s nose. I’m flattered and excited.
How am I going to sit there looking at the woman I love without going crazy? Will I be able to contain myself after a few drinks? My juices are already flowing.
JANE SAYS: You’re right to suspect this woman’s motives.
Tell her that lending her £300 isn’t a possibility and give yourself a good, long break from this association to clear your mind and really think about yourself and your needs.
I hate the idea of her crushing your confidence and leaving you confused and upset.
You are a person in your own right. She doesn’t define you and there is life beyond this fractured relationship.
Tell her today you need some space and don’t allow yourself to be anyone’s fool.
Your flat may be very handy regarding her social life, but she oversteps the mark once too often and prevents you from meeting someone true. JANE SAYS: Just stop and start thinking straight. Yes, I get it that you’re in the throes of a grand passion, but guess what?
This is not the time for family dramas. Stop obsessing about your sleazy sex life and spare a thought for everyone else.
Your wife, parents and extended family don’t deserve this. At the moment you’re in danger of ripping your whole family apart and spoiling everyone’s fun.
I know you adore your sister-inlaw and that she touches your soul, but I don’t have a huge amount of sympathy for you in this particular situation.
What you’re doing is wrong on so many levels and you should have woken up and walked away a long time ago. Tell your sister-inlaw today that you cannot see her in private any more.
Suggest she concentrates her mind on her own life and works out where she goes from here.
I can’t predict what will happen in the future, but if you and she DO decide to make a go of things, then you’ll have the biggest fight of your lives on your hands.
Are you prepared for the potential fall-out? Messing around with your own sister-in-law has to rate as one of the most foolish affairs possible. Does your wife deserve to hear the truth? Over to you and your conscience.