She tells me I'm a turn-off

SEX has become a battle between me and my girlfriend.

She can’t stand me to go near her and says it’s all my fault. She accuses me of putting her off with my clumsy foreplay, my hairy back and my lack of sex appeal.

In fact, it seems that every single thing I do makes her gag.

We haven’t made love in months and I’m losing the will to live. She claims that simply looking at me turns her off.

Apparently she enjoyed brilliant sex with her ex (so none of this could possibly be her fault).

That’s funny, because my sex life was always brilliant before I met her too. What’s going on?

We’ve been together for a year and all we seem to do is argue about how ugly and horrible I am. JANE SAYS: Your girlfriend is playing for time and being a coward.

If she no longer loves nor fancies you, or if she thinks this relationship has come to the end and she wants out, she should have the guts to say so.

All of these personal insults are unworthy and low. Talk to her away from the bedroom and make it clear that you will not go on like this.

Your back may well be hairy, but presumably it was hairy when you first met?

Remarks about your technique or lack of sex appeal are insulting and unfair.

If you and she can’t talk like adults and work together, then you’ll have to part.

What you can’t do is allow her to drag you down and crush your confidence for good. Not all relationships go the distance, but there’s no excuse for rudeness.