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I’M in too deep with my outrageous brother-in-law.
He’s texting me and sending me sexy pics behind my sister’s back.
She has no idea that he pings over 20 images a day of everything from his penis to his favourite porn stars.
I smoke and I made the mistake of getting too friendly with him
Now he thinks I’m his mate – the only one in the family on his wavelength – and I’m scared. I suspect he thinks he’s going to have sex with me very soon.
I would never hurt my sister, but he’s so charismatic and charming I don’t know how to wriggle out of his clutches.
Just this morning he sent me a message suggesting a meet-up in a local hotel. I made an excuse and said “no” and now he’s accusing me of holding out on him.
I never meant for things to go this far and I feel guilty and cornered.
Now I worry that if I tell my sister anything, PRESS 1 for GENERAL COUNSELLING for all personal and relationship difficulties PRESS 2 for SEXUAL GUIDANCE for all men’s and women’s intimate problems she’ll label me an untrustworthy husband thief.
JANE SAYS:You’ve got to ask this man not to send you any more inappropriate material. He has to understand that you don’t find him funny and you’re not interested in playing his grubby game.
At the moment I can only assume that he’s getting some kind of kick out of embarrassing and humiliating you. Warn him this nonsense has to end here because you love your sister and feel very protective of their marriage.
Is he in the habit of doing this kind of thing with other people? You can’t allow him to have any kind of hold over you or issue any sort of threat.
If your sister needs to hear the truth, then do you need to confide in your mother or another trusted family member?
Ultimately, you must be guided by your conscience and your own sense of what is right and what is wrong.