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MY small-minded partner hates the fact that I’m currently doing well.
In the past couple of years I’ve overtaken her in terms of salary and status, but any time we discuss my work (I run a PR business) she dismisses it as unimportant.
Only her work (she’s employed by a charity) counts and she loves to make me feel shallow.
Then she launches into a “poor me” rant about how life has been so unfair to her.
I accept she’s had some unfortunate experiences with horrible parents and past partners.
But I consider us a team and find it galling that she’s so negative about the contribution I make. What’s her problem?
I HATE how I look and am sure my ugliness drove my ex away.
We were together for two years and I thought he was serious about me.
But then I changed my hairstyle and lost a lot of weight. I’m convinced he woke up one morning, looked at the woman I’d become and started planning his escape.
A few weeks later a friend warned that he was seeing someone else. Did my flat chest and skinny bum drive him into the arms of another?
I think they did. I can’t help thinking that he only strayed because I am so unattractive and inadequate.
When I look at other women in the spotlight, I can’t imagine that any man is ever going to find me attractive again.
Lonely
I’m no Page Three girl and struggle to look at myself in the mirror. My friends tell me I’m attractive with a fantastic personality, but what use is that when I am convinced that I now face a lonely future?
A good sense of humour isn’t going to keep me warm in bed at night, is it?
My ex-boyfriend was fantastic – really good-looking and charming. I couldn’t believe it when he first asked me out and my sisters were so jealous.
For months he treated me like a princess. We had great holidays and nights out and our sex life was wicked and completely off the scale.
Then we settled down into a decent, loving relationship and I assumed I was set for life.
Now he’s all over social media bragging about his new life with his amazingly beautiful new partner and I feel like utter rubbish.
If I could walk out of here every morning with a sack over my head then I would happily do so.
JANE SAYS: It would be sad if your partner is jealous of your career, but you cannot allow her to knock your confidence or hold you back – especially if your larger salary affords you a better lifestyle.
Make a point of telling her that you love your job and the rewards it brings and that her sniping hurts and disappoints you.
Ask her to get over herself and be proud of your achievements, because everything you do is for the both of you.
However, if she really can’t get past the fact that you are a success in your own right, then is she in danger of dragging you down over time?
Is she really on your side or more concerned with scoring points and giving you a hard time? JANE SAYS: You gush about how charming and perfect your former partner was.
But he couldn’t have been that great if he cheated on you and is now bragging about his new partner all over social media. Stop viewing him through rose-tinted glasses and start seeing him as the flawed, rather insensitive individual he really is.
The fact is that none of us is perfect. You could march up to the 10 most beautiful women in the world tomorrow and I can absolutely guarantee that they’d all have insecurities, worries and things about themselves that they hate.
The fact is that your confidence took a massive blow when you discovered your ex was cheating on you with another woman.
But you can’t blame your own wonderful, healthy body for his behaviour. And you can’t possibly compare yourself to celebrities either because it’s their job to look unbelievably brilliant.
Forget all thoughts of your life ending here and start loving the skin you’re in.
I can assure you that millions of women worldwide would be jealous of your freedom to choose, your family and your friends.
Your ex didn’t define you, so find yourself someone who celebrates your beauty. But do think about chatting to your GP about body dysmorphic disorder (BDD) if you are struggling to cope.