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I FREQUENTLY get the impression that my sister-in-law hates my guts.
We’re supposed to be mates but she’s got a funny way of showing it.
From deliberately buying a pricier pair of shoes to splashing out on a new sofa, everything is a competition with her.
I’m just back from visiting my sister in Australia, so she’s booked a more expensive trip to Florida to make me jealous.
She and my brother run a successful business but I can’t imagine that he’s impressed with her excessive spending.
She’s especially competitive when it comes to her kids. Her two are clad in designer numbers all the time.
If I get my daughter a pair of new shoes, she buys her girl two. What’s her problem?
HOW do I get my girlfriend’s outrageous auntie to leave me alone?
The woman is out of control. She’s obsessed with me.
She calls, texts and pops into the garage where I work as a mechanic all the time.
I’m a lot younger than she is and I’ve tried to tell her that I’m not interested but she’s offering herself to me on a plate.
She’s always talking dirty and rubbing herself up against my greasy overalls.
So far I’ve had dozens of naked images sent to my phone.
It’s all very flattering, but I already have a girlfriend who I’ve been going out with for years.
Filth
More than once this cougar has hissed that I’m wasting my time because I deserve a “real woman”. She says my girl is spotty, flatchested and boring and that I’m ripe for a change.
I’m in no doubt that she’d show me the time of my life, but I do feel out of my depth here.
The fact is that I’ve done absolutely nothing to encourage her.
I know for a fact that she’s got money and a big house as the result of a recent divorce.
I suspect that if I were to go round to see her she’d treat me to clothes, gifts and even cash in return for a sizzling night or two of filth.
Then I look at my girlfriend, who is the sweetest thing on earth (but pretty reserved in every way) and feel in limbo.
I’m 25 years of age with more debts from years of partying than I care to acknowledge.
Do I owe it to myself to just get out there and have a good time and hang the consequences?
My grandad died a few months ago having done nothing with his life. On his deathbed he told me to screw everyone and have a laugh.
Do I owe it to his memory to give this older predator a chance?
JANE SAYS: I suggest you step back and allow your shallow sister-in-law to waste all the money she likes.
I suspect she suffers a lack of self-worth and is clearly in awe of you.
Don’t allow her to bring you down. Rise above her and smile sweetly the next time her children trot out in their new designer gear.
Remember it’s only a race if you let yourself get sucked in. If anything, feel flattered she’s so bothered about your opinion.
Ultimately, you aren’t obliged to spend too much time with her. Your children may be cousins, but you’re not all joined at the hip.
Be your own person and let her play mind games on her own. JANE SAYS: Your late grandad’s words have made you face up to the fact that life is short and we don’t get a second go. But do you really want to hurt your girlfriend by going off with a woman who may just be playing with you?
If she’s sexually frustrated and bored, then it’s not your job to boost her ego or supply her fun.
Clearly she doesn’t care about your girlfriend herself, but you should. The woman may consider herself provocative and irresistible, but she sounds pathetic, sad and attention-seeking to me.
What upsets me is that she’s deliberately going out of her way to make you feel awkward.
Far from being sexy, her behaviour is disrespectful and crass. How dare she bombard you? She’s being a nuisance. Does she actually need a serious warning?
She’s embarrassing you and trampling all over what you have with your girlfriend.
If your life with your girl isn’t all you’d like it to be, then talk to her honestly about your needs, desires and fantasies and work on your relationship.
However, if you’re starting to feel what you have with your girl has run its course and is no longer enough for you, then make a clean break and move on, but please don’t muck around.