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MY girlfriend has become very self-conscious of late. She’s put weight on and hates her body.

For the past three months she’s refused to have sex because she hates the way she looks.

I tell her I don’t care about the size of her belly. I love her just the way she is and feel rejected.

We’ve been together for two years and aren’t exactly the most romantic couple in the world, but I miss the intimacy.

We’re due to go on holiday to Ibiza in late June. She’s already said she’s not taking a swimming costume or revealing clothes because of her size.

I was looking forward to sun, sangria and sex – it’s all that’s kept me going through the winter.

Does that mean she’ll turn me down for sex out there too?

JANE SAYS: It would be a terrible shame if this upcoming holiday became a battleground.

I suspect it’s costing you both a lot of money and will be an important battery recharger after the cold winter we’ve all endured.

It sounds like your partner needs a lot of reassurance and support.

Suggest going on regular walks together. Make eating healthily and getting fit something that you tackle as a team.

Suggest baby steps and offer kind words and encouragement and, hopefully, she’ll soon start to feel sexy and relevant again. Does she need to speak to her GP?

I fear her confidence is currently at rock bottom and she can’t see anyway out of her personal hell.

We all go through bad patches, but she needs to understand that you’re currently suffering too.

Can she find any way of meeting you halfway?