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MY mother and mother-in-law do not get on with each other.

They’re intelligent, accomplished women, but when it comes to my partner and I and seeing our children, they’re competitive.

They push each other out of the way to cuddle our baby or kiss our three-year-old.

It’s embarrassing how jealous they are of each other. If I tell my mum (who I love deeply) that my mother-in-law has popped in for a cuppa, she goes into a strop.

She demands to know why she wasn’t invited and then I find myself making excuses.

Just lately I’ve even started lying to each of them to keep the peace, which is exhausting because I can never remember what I’ve said to who.

They give me more trouble than my kids. How do I control these total brats?

JANE SAYS: As a busy and responsible mother, the last thing you need is more stress in your life.

If you’re not careful, these two women are going to push you over the edge. Call a halt.

Tell each of them they both need to grow up, calm down and start showing your young family some respect.

They are loved and welcome in your home, but they cannot push their luck.

They’re extremely fortunate to have family and grandchildren in the first place. Tell them not to blow it by hacking you off.

Suggest they do the grown-up thing by getting together and sorting out their issues – otherwise they might start to find themselves left out in the cold.