IT often feels as though I’m nothing to my partner.

She doesn’t consider my feelings and speaks to me like dirt.

I don’t like that she’s still in regular contact with three of her ex-lovers or the way she stays out all night without telling me where she is.

I don’t speak to any of my ex partners, even those who still owe me money.

I fear she lies to me about who she sees and where she goes.

If I dare to ask her about her movements, she gets defensive and tells me to get stuffed.

Yet she still expects me to service her whenever she feels horny. She uses sex as a weapon and I’m the whipping boy.

All I ask is for a little consideration and respect after three years together.

JANE SAYS: Roll up your sleeves and try to sort out this mess. Lack of communication is pushing you apart.

You both need to address your problems like mature adults.

Start off by asking her how she thinks things are going – and really listen to her opinions.

What does she think of you and the quality of life you share?

Then ask her not to interrupt while you put your views across.

Can she understand why you get upset?

Can you both make changes to improve your life together?

If she continues to humiliate you, you’ll have to think about whether staying in this union is a good idea for the sake of your self-respect and mental health.

Would she be happier as a single woman?