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MY man has piled on a huge amount of weight.

He has a stressful job and eating is his pleasure and his release.

He’s a lovely fella and wants us to get married as soon as possible.

The problem is that my family and old friends are a very looks-obsessed and judgmental bunch.

We’re currently living 100 miles away from the town of my birth. I come from an extended family and I know that every last cousin, aunt and uncle will expect to be invited to my wedding, but they don’t hold back.

I suspect I could easily end up with 100 sneering guests if I’m not careful – and I don’t want that.

My boyfriend has no idea that I’m ashamed of him.

Dare I tell him that he has to sort himself out before I can risk introducing him to any of my clan?

JANE SAYS: It’s right that your man shapes up and gets himself fit for the sake of his own health.

Being overweight isn’t good for the heart and can trigger all sorts of other conditions, such as diabetes.

If he’s over-eating because of stress then talk to him about where you both go from here. How can he start to reduce stress and improve his lifestyle? What can you work on together?

Stop worrying about your extended family and start concentrating on changing his bad eating habits.

Get married when you want to – the way you want to. Don’t put yourself under pressure to invite a cast of thousands because you’ll never please all of the people all of the time – and why should you bother?

If you no longer even see those old friends any more, then why should they come to your wedding at all?

Start putting yourselves first and stop looking over your shoulder.