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I’M stressed out about having sex again as I haven’t been intimate with a woman for many years and worry about looking ridiculous.

An old girlfriend has recently been back in touch. She was widowed at the end of last year and would like us to relight our old fire.

We’ve talked dirty on the phone and I know she is keen to resume our relationship and become intimate again. But I’m out of practice.

I don’t know all the modern tricks, toys and positions. What if I’m not good enough? What if she expects certain sex acts that I don’t know?

I’m often shocked by some of the things I read online. I’d hate to appear old-fashioned and out of touch.

I really need this to work as I’m lonely and looking for love.

JANE SAYS: Just start believing in yourself because there really is no rush. Take things slowly and get to know each other all over again.

Insist on romantic dates, long walks, intimate chats and a huge amount of wooing.

Make sure you set the pace regarding sex and only make love when you feel relaxed and ready, because you will know when the time is right.

Just ignore all of that stuff online. Remember that a lot of people spout a lot of nonsense in order to make themselves seem more vibrant.

You know your limits and what you are comfortable with, so never allow anyone else to push you into something that doesn’t ring your bell.

Remember that your friend is interested in you – no-one else – and that you deserve passion and happiness too.