THERE’S a guy at my work who the girls think is hilarious.

He’s a bit of a Peter Kay character, being larger than life and witty with it.

He only has to snap his fingers and he’s got a date. Women fall over themselves to bed him.

Me? I can’t get arrested. I know I’m good-looking. I only have to look in the mirror to see that.

But any time I try to chat to a girl I run out of things to say.

The other day I was at the coffee machine when I heard two colleagues describe me as the “Ken Doll” and then laugh that I am self-obsessed boring. Not true!

But now I’ve lost any remaining confidence in myself. JANE SAYS: Can’t you take some tips from your colleague? Can’t you watch and learn?

I wonder how friendly and smiley you are compared to him?

I fully understand that you often feel embarrassed and tongue-tied, but life really is too short for self-consciousness.

You’ve got to get out there and seize the day.

I’m not for one minute suggesting you date anyone from work, but if your funny workmate is a good role model, then shamelessly copy his lines and his moves.

Study what makes him popular and fun to be around.

Life isn’t a rehearsal. You’re wasting good years standing back and looking in the mirror.

Why don’t you befriend him and ask him the secret of his success? I suspect he would be flattered that you’ve noticed him.