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EVERYTHING in my life is going wrong.
I’ve just discovered that my ex-girlfriend slept with three of my friends, including my oldest female pal.
My boss is using me – he’s underpaying me and getting me to do all sorts of overtime and stuff that isn’t part of my job.
On top of that, my parents have just announced that they’re selling up and moving to a flat in Spain. They’ve told me to find myself a room in a house share.
They won’t be able to give me any cash because the family house is their pension and they need every penny they can get.
Shafted
I just feel as though I’ve been shafted at every turn. Meanwhile, my mates and cousins are being promoted, getting married and enjoying inheritances.
My oldest pal has just received a cheque for £240,000 from his late grandmother’s estate.
He’s chucked in his job and announced that he’s going to New Zealand, so that’s another spanner in my social life.
It seems that everything that can go wrong does go wrong for me. My life never moves on. I fail to impress and I never seem to get a lucky break.
I thought my last girlfriend was “The One” until I found her in bed with my pal from primary school. Even then she simply laughed in my face, listed all of her other conquests and asked me for £500 to go away.
I try and stay positive and upbeat. My lovely sister keeps reassuring me things will get better, but what if she’s wrong? What if I’m destined to fail?
To be honest, if it wasn’t for her and her husband feeding me, allowing me to crash at weekends and lending me money, then I don’t know if I’d carry on getting up in the morning.
They’re the only ones keeping me going.
JANE SAYS: I think your kind, wise sister is absolutely right.
Things may seem very bleak right now, but you cannot allow unfortunate events and other people to drag you down. If you really are feeling too depressed to get out of bed, then please visit your GP and be brutally honest about your situation and your feelings.
Don’t allow yourself to be fobbed off. If you don’t feel the GP is sympathetic, then speak to another.
Always remember that you can call The Samaritans (116 123) at any time to talk things through.
Ultimately, you have to park the past and start looking after yourself. Your parents’ move is unfortunate for you, but life goes on and you can’t resent them for taking the next step on their journey. The same goes for your friends. I’m sure it is galling watching them get hitched, but your time will come.
Set yourself goals and make your own luck. Do you need to change your job and give your whole life a complete overhaul? I think you do.
Get your sister to help you in planning where you go from here.
She sounds sensible and proactive and clearly has your best interests at heart.
Accept that your ex-girlfriend was nothing more than a user and wash her right out of your hair.