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MY girlfriend has a bad drugs habit.
I’m no angel – I’ve partied hard in the past – but I can see her falling apart.
The problem is she works for a multi-national corporation who expect long hours and results from her.
She loves her job. She often says it defines her and that if she lost it she wouldn’t know what to do with herself.
But I don’t know how much longer she can go on like this. She is snorting cocaine and drinking vodka before she goes to work each day.
She makes no secret of the fact she and her colleagues regularly nip to the toilets to “top up”. And their evenings in trendy bars and clubs are a free-for-all.
Caner
It’s getting to the point where she can’t function without a fix. She is playing with her health, spending money she doesn’t have and alienating herself from her family and friends.
Her parents have banned her from their house after an incident involving some missing cash.
Even her sister calls her a bad influence and won’t allow her children anywhere near us. It’s devastating for me, in particular, because I love those kids.
When I first met her I was a bit of a caner too, but I cleaned up last summer when a friend died following a weekend of excess.
I’m not judging my girl. I’m just very worried because she is using so much. She claims that she could stop any time she likes and that she is not dependent on anything. Sadly, that’s not true because she now has drugs delivered to our home by courier.
The other morning I decided to test her by hiding her cocaine and vodka in the bread bin.
She went nuts – screaming and clawing at me like a wild beast. Even when I caved in and opened the bin she yelled that I was a “massive tool”.
Oh, and we’re no longer having sex because she doesn’t fancy it. JANE SAYS: Your girlfriend now needs professional help. You can’t let her continue to poison herself with drink and drugs.
Front her up and tell her you care too much to let this go on. She has a problem, whether or not she chooses to admit it.
You are watching someone you love slowly disintegrating before your eyes – and you won’t let that happen.
Sit down together and check out the Cocaine Anonymous website at cauk.org.uk where you will find information, an explanation of the “12 steps and traditions” and details of local meetings.
Ask her to attend the sessions and promise to support her all the way. Alternatively, insist that she sees her GP.
Are there any other members of her family you can also talk to who are willing to get involved?
I believe that everyone who loves your girl now needs to offer some forgiveness and pull together in an effort to save her.
Yes, they are really angry and disappointed in her but this is no time for staying silent and turning their backs.
The woman has hit crisis point and needs help before tragedy strikes again.