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WHY can’t my brother see that his girlfriend is a user?
He earns a fortune but is being ripped off by his latest lover and just won’t accept it.
In the short time they’ve been together he’s lent her the money for a car and bought her loads of clothes, jewellery and handbags.
Next month they’re flying out to Florida and he’s admitted that he’s paying for everything.
I can’t stand the woman, I find her manipulative and tricky.
Recently I had to pop round to his place to pick up something for our grandad and she was outrageously rude to me.
It was a boiling hot day and I simply asked if I could have a glass of water and she jumped down my throat.
Fraud
She accused me of spying on her and outstaying my welcome. I’m afraid I lost my rag and told her to get out of my face.
We almost had a fight and my poor brother had to take her into the garden to calm her down.
I constantly hear horrible stories about her from my mates. Apparently, she had two children in her teens who are now with her mother in America.
She has ripped off numerous blokes over the years and once narrowly avoided going to prison after a charge of fraud.
Unfortunately my brother will not hear a bad word said against her.
If I’m honest I fear he’s being blinded by sex. He claims she’s a changed woman and a “pussy cat” now. More than once she’s accused me of being jealous and of not wanting my brother to be happy.
That’s just not true. I’m very happy with my partner and not interested in controlling anyone.
But I can’t stand by and watch my own brother, who is 30, being taken for a ride, even if his brain has turned to mush
Our parents live in Spain and have begged me to keep an eye on him because they worry that he’s too nice for his own good – but all I ever get is a flea in my ear for my trouble. JANE SAYS: I urge you to step back. Tell your parents that you love your brother dearly but can’t get involved in how he spends his money or his time.
Of course you are all worried about him but you have to accept that he’s no longer a child. He is entitled to make his own decisions – and his own mistakes.
Maybe having regular sex with his lover has made his brain (temporarily) turn to mush, but this honeymoon period won’t last forever.
If, as I suspect, lust is clouding his judgment, then nothing any of Picture posed by models you say is going to register. All he can think about is his woman and how she makes him feel.
From what you say, you’ve tried to reason with him and he’s chosen to ignore you. You can’t physically force him to do anything he doesn’t want to do.
Tell him today that you love him and will always be there for him, then get on with your own life.
I worry that you’re spending too much time fretting about him while your own partner is being neglected.
And tell your parents to calm down too.