MY girl is also sleeping with four other blokes.
She says I can take it or leave it; this is the life she’s living and she’s not changing her ways for anyone.
I just think she’s being such an idiot because these other morons are complete jerks. I know each and every one of them and they’re the lowest of the low.
From her married boss, who has slept with every secretary he’s ever had, to her gym instructor who is so vain he could eat himself, I’m a saint in comparison.
Then there is her idiotic exboyfriend who she simply can’t let go and her brother’s friend who uses her for money and sex.
I keep telling her that she does not have to live her life this way, that I’m capable of giving her everything she needs, but she likes to consider herself a wild child and a player.
And she constantly posts stuff on social media about all the great sex she’s having. She brags that she’s the hottest woman around, but I suspect everyone we know is laughing at her and that upsets me because I care about her.
She thinks she’s invincible and gorgeous, but I’m the only one who actually has her back. I’m the one who picks her up when she’s stranded and holds her hair when she’s being sick.
I cook her nice food and secretly pay her bills so that she doesn’t have to worry. In return she blasts me for being controlling and boring. I just can’t win.
Recently I paid for us to visit a luxury country house hotel. But on the way back she asked me to drop her at her gym instructor’s flat because she was feeling horny and needed a workout.
Despite me begging her not to humiliate me, because we’d had a fantastic weekend of sex, she went anyway.
I have to confess that I spent the remainder of the night crying my eyes out.
JANE SAYS: I fear your loyalty and your love are misplaced.
You talk about your girlfriend as if she’s some kind of victim, but it sounds to me as if she knows exactly what she’s doing – and she’s loving her wild life.
She doesn’t want saving and you have to start viewing her as the tough old bird she really is.
You worry that the other men in her life are using her, but surely she’s guilty of using you too?
That weekend away must have cost you a fortune, yet how did she repay you? By rushing straight into the arms of one of her other lovers.
You love this woman and you want her to love you back, but she is not interested in an exclusive relationship. No matter how hard you try and whatever you throw at her, she refuses to drop her other men for you.
If anything, she seems to despise you. Stop wasting your energy and your money on an individual who isn’t interested in loving you back.
Start protecting your heart and your feelings. I realise that you are not ready to give up on her yet, but how much more of this rejection and humiliation can you actually take?
You’ll never find anyone decent while she’s still in your life.