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WHEN I first met my exhusband I worked in the fashion industry and had loads of gay friends.

They’d take me out clubbing and I had the best time. But he absolutely hated every single one of them.

He said some horribly homophobic things about them, which sickened me to the core.

We finally broke up when he was really rude to my gay nephew on a family holiday. My mother actually took me to one side and said: “You have to leave this monster.”

Now I’ve just heard that my ex has come out and is living with a man.

I’m so angry that he put me through so much when he was secretly hiding his true sexuality.

He’s just started a new job and I’m tempted to tell his boss he’s a hypocrite and a fake. Dare I?

JANE SAYS: You may feel you want revenge, but your best form of revenge involves walking away and not looking back.

You and your ex are now history and there’s nothing to be gained from contacting his new boss out of spite.

I suspect that he was unhappy and conflicted for a long time – maybe since early childhood.

While he was with you he knew that he was living a lie and his anger and frustrations came out by “protesting too much”.

Hopefully he’s now settled – so let it go. What good would raking up all the old hurt do now?

By all means write down everything that made you angry, then rip it up and throw it in the bin.

That chapter in your life has closed and there can be no place for energydraining bitterness or recriminations.

Your future is too important – don’t waste another second of it.