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I’M finding it hard to understand my new girlfriend.

We’ve been together eight months and she swears she loves me, but says she only wants to see me occasionally so we don’t get bored.

Basically, she tells me when she’s free and I’m expected to jump to attention.

She takes her career (which involves a lot of travelling) very seriously. But she can be weird, jealous and controlling too.

She snatches my phone out of my hand to check I’m not talking to other girls.

She lays traps – she’ll say she’s coming home from a trip on a Friday, but then turns up on the Thursday to see what I’m doing.

What is her problem? JANE SAYS: Your new girlfriend seems to want it all ways.

She’s only prepared to see you on her terms, yet she tries to control you.

Tell her you want to have an equal say in how this relationship is run, because it’s got to be a partnership.

All this setting traps and turning up unexpectedly is immature and pathetic.

Does she love and respect you or doesn’t she? I get the impression that she’s rather spoilt and self-entitled.

She enjoys calling the shots but then doesn’t like it when you have a good time without her.

Doesn’t she understand how unreasonable her behaviour often is?

If she continues to play games, then you need to prepare to walk because you’re worth more than this. You’re not her back-up plan or her pet poodle and she needs to start recognising that.