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HOW do I keep the peace between two grown women who have always hated the sight of each other?

My daughters were born one year apart and have never got on. They are now 31 and 32 and cannot be in the same room.

Things aren’t helped by the fact that the eldest deliberately targeted her sister’s boyfriend for a rampant affair in 2010.

In revenge, her younger sister reported her to her landlord for running an illegal business in her flat and the HMRC for not paying any tax.

I’m stuck in the middle and I’m exhausted from having my ears chewed off.

Not only do I have to ensure that I’m scrupulously fair and spend exactly the same amount of time with each of them, but it also means that we can never have a family celebration because they refuse to bury the hatchet.

I’m not in the best of health and they’re seriously wearing me out now.

JANE SAYS: Please start putting your health and happiness first.

I suspect you’ve spent too many years placating your spoilt, unpleasant daughters.

They’re women now and if they haven’t worked out how to behave or rub along, then it sounds as if there’s no hope for them.

I beg you not to allow them to drag you down or spoil your days.

If they’re so immature and petty that they can’t even stand to be in the same room as each other – even for your sake – then they are to be pitied.

Is it worth you reading them the riot act and telling them how fed up and disappointed you are?

Whatever happens, you cannot allow them to worry or depress you. Life is for living and it’s vital that you embrace and enjoy every new day. Start being selfish.