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I’VE been having on-off sex with my sister-inlaw for over five years.
She and I first dated (as single people) when we worked for the same firm.
Then she moved in with a guy and I went abroad for six months. On my return we hooked up again and had casual sex whenever we fancied a bit of fun.
She’d get drunk and call me up for a quickie and I’d do the same to her. We talked about becoming a couple again but we both decided we were too selfish and too similar to make a go of things.
Eventually she introduced me to her much quieter sister at a family party and my wife and I married nine months later.
Struggle
Now we’re settled and my wife is talking about starting a family, but I struggle to stay faithful.
The problem is I’m still wildly attracted to her more exciting, sexy, naughty little sister.
She’s the one who makes me feel alive. The electricity between us is palpable and we’re drawn together like magnets.
I only have to have a skinful after work to find myself ringing her number for a catch-up.
The other week my boss treated my team to two crates of Champagne after some particularly impressive sales figures.
I downed a bottle in the office and then grabbed another to take straight round to my lover.
If I’m honest, it didn’t even cross my mind to go back to my wife. She would have loved a treat – and I feel really ashamed about that. My lover couldn’t give two hoots for my wife. She says she’s so boring that she deserves everything she gets.
But I don’t like being this devious, lying man. If I’m being absolutely honest, I have to confess that my sister-in-law isn’t the only woman I see on the side – there is now also an accountant and an HR executive I work with too. What kind of monster am I? JANE SAYS: You have to realise you’re living on borrowed time.
Your wife will soon find out about your on-going affair with her sister – plus your other lovers – because these things always come out in the end.
How do you think your wife is going to feel when she learns that you’ve been lying and cheating behind her back?
She sounds a decent, straightforward person yet you’re running rings around her.
You’re sneaking behind her back and acting the fool. If alcohol is at the root of your problem, then talk to your GP about giving up.
But, if the fact of the matter is that you enjoy messing around with your sister-in-law and other lovers, then you’ve got some decisions to make.
In short you can’t have it both ways. You can’t accept the loving home your wife provides while filling your boots elsewhere.
It doesn’t work like that. You need to have a serious think about who you are and where your life is headed.
Find the courage to speak to your wife about your behaviour.
She has to hear from you that you’re not the person she thinks you are, so that you can both decide where you go from here.