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I WORK in an office which is 80% male and I worry the language used against me is inappropriate.
I’ve noticed more and more that the way I am spoken to is different to my male counterparts. I am challenged more on my performance, have my appearance commented on and seem to be spoken down to, when a man in the same position isn’t.
Other times I am called “darling” or “love” which makes me feel uncomfortable, although I am sure they are just trying to be nice.
Should I be worried about this and what can I do?
Rachel, 23, Liverpool
WELL, Rachel, this is certainly tricky. You ask whether you should be worried about some of the comments made or not.
If it is making you feel uncomfortable, as you say, then you should, of course, be worried about it. You should not have to be subjected to working conditions which make you feel uncomfortable on a daily basis. You have rights.
Now, if it was just one individual, I’d suggest you start off by having a quiet word with them.
However, in your case, it’s clearly the entire office culture that is a problem.
I would therefore say that your first step should be, discreetly, to request an informal, private chat
IF you are otherwise but happy in a role with have an issue your colleagues, and, tread carefully in the first instance, try not to overreact. on Focus instead finding a solution. with whoever your immediate boss is. This individual may be part of the problem but he or she should, nonetheless, be your first port of call. Remain calm; remain polite; remain professional.
But firmly and clearly explain your point of view – focussing on how it makes you feel – and any manager worth their salt should be able to readily resolve this matter.