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MY girlfriend and her bestie cuddle, kiss and caress right in front of me.

Whenever I go away with work, this girl comes over and takes my place in our bed. I’m very confused about the nature of their friendship.

My girl swears she’s 100% straight and would never cheat on me. She says she adores her mate “like a sister” and simply doesn’t like sleeping alone if I’m not in the flat.

But the open kissing and cuddling? What does that all mean?

The bestie occasionally has boyfriends, but they never last for long. The last one was her married boss.

I only met him once and I’m convinced she only introduced him to me in order to tick a box.

She’s single now and I can see she’s besotted with my girlfriend – even if my girlfriend can’t.

How do I protect our relationship when I feel increasingly that I’m the odd one out?

JANE SAYS: Perhaps you should ask your girlfriend what her definition of cheating is.

She may not be having sexual intercourse with another man, but if she’s conducting an emotional and sexual relationship with her pal, then isn’t that cheating too?

Does she understand that you don’t like her pal getting into your bed and taking up your place?

Of course your girl is entitled to have friends and enjoy closeness and security, but where is the line drawn? Does she really need to kiss and cuddle this other woman?

Be honest about what you are prepared to put up with. You’re entitled to have your say.

If she decides that she’d rather be with her than you, then so be it.

But the current situation isn’t working for you.